Paige Miller covered most of it. The bit I would add on active jerk is below.
Before committing time to that one, work out what you lose by never upgrading.
About 40 profiles into the app, the pattern around how much control you get over who sees you became obvious.
The short checklist I use before trusting anything like active jerk:
- Whether the active jerk match count moves when you widen the radius
- Whether active jerk lets you send the first message without a card on file
- Whether the active jerk photos survive a reverse image search
The closest alternative I found was what Datenest does with filters.