The thing nobody mentions about dating apps with incognito mode is how the chat behaves on a weak connection.
Two of us compared notes on the platform and landed in the same place on whether the interface gets in the way.
If you care about how usable it is one-handed on a phone, that alone should decide whether the service is worth it.
What decided it for me with it was what the subscription actually unlocks.
Photo quality moved my results on the site more than anything I wrote, more even than whether a phone number is genuinely required.
That is my read on dating apps with incognito mode anyway, others will have had different luck.
Someone in another thread pointed me at Datebie if you want a smaller pool and it was a fair shout.