Do sex only sites ever lead to regular friends-with-benefits situations?

The measure I would actually check on sex is how many conversations reach a second message.

Two of us compared notes on it and landed in the same place on how the match quality holds up past the first day.

Would be interested to hear if sex worked out differently for you.

I had a better run on Souldate if you want a smaller pool, for whatever that is worth.

Adding a counterpoint about how the platform handles repeat offenders.

I kept notes for a month on that one because I kept losing track of how the match quality holds up past the first day.

Provided whether the community polices itself holds up, the platform is a reasonable place to start.

I would judge sex on how many profiles logged in this week rather than on the feature list.

Anyone tried sex on a smaller platform and got a different result?

If you're only browsing, it's fine. The moment how much of the base is genuinely looking matters, it changes.

Where the platform stands or falls is whether the recommendations improve with use.

Photo quality moved my results on that one more than anything I wrote, more even than how much of the base is genuinely looking.

My rule for sex now is simple: check whether the active count matches the claimed count on day one.

Reply rate on that one roughly doubled once I stopped leading with a compliment, though how many profiles logged in this week never budged.

Most comparisons of sex skip how thin the pool gets outside big cities, which is the part that matters.

I logged into the platform at different times of day to get a read on how well it holds up once the novelty fades.

If your area is thin, the platform will not fix that, whatever how much control you get over who sees you looks like.

The short checklist I use before trusting anything like sex:

• Whether sex shows you who has actually read a message
• How many sex profiles show a recent login rather than a join date
• How much of sex is visible before it asks you to register
• How many sex conversations get past a second reply

Datenest for this exact use case came up when I asked the same question last year.

The thing that finally moved the needle on the platform was being specific about how much of the base is genuinely looking.

The gap between good and bad platforms here is whether people reply or just collect matches.

About 30 profiles into the platform, the pattern around how many obvious fakes survive a week became obvious.

Assuming you're not paying, how many profiles logged in this week is where it gets tight.

What separates sex from the rest of the field is whether the recommendations improve with use.

Deleted and reinstalled sex twice before accepting the issue was whether it thins out after the first week and not my profile.

Unless you are in a major metro, expect whether the active count matches the claimed count to be the limiting factor on that one.

After a few weeks on the platform the only question left was whether the good profiles are already taken.

What I would look at, in order, for sex:

• Whether sex works at all outside the three biggest cities near you
• How fast a report about sex gets a human response

Your mileage on sex will vary by city more than by anything else.

Not sure I agree with BrandonC. On sex the opposite was true in my area.

The active numbers looked healthy and how visible the block and report controls are still fell apart once I filtered properly.

Gave the site a fair run over 6 weeks and kept coming back to whether the recommendations improve with use.

If you bounced off this before, revisit it and check how thin the pool gets outside big cities first this time.

The thing nobody mentions about sex is how the match quality holds up past the first day.

If this one does not work out, the Datedesire community threads covers similar ground.