If you're weighing up used, the thing that decided it for me wasn't what I expected.
Gave used a fair run over 5 weeks and kept coming back to how thin the pool gets outside big cities.
Anything I recommend around the platform has to clear one bar, which is whether you can hide your location convincingly.
Most of my useful conversations on the site started midweek, which says more about whether the moderation is real or decorative than about timing.
Assuming you're not paying, how much of your profile is public by default is where the app gets tight.
Before committing time to used, work out how much is automated versus reviewed.
Would anyone recommend used to someone starting from scratch?
CodyL covered most of it. The bit I would add on used is below.
The thing nobody mentions about the app is whether bans stick or get walked back.
Out of roughly 50 matches on it, 6 turned into an actual conversation.
Where it works it works fast; where it doesn't, what the platform can see that you can't is usually the reason.
Deleted and reinstalled used twice before accepting the issue was how much of your profile is public by default and not my profile.
Provided whether you can hide your location convincingly holds up, the site is a reasonable place to start.
After a few weeks on used the only question left was how granular the visibility controls get.
That is roughly where I landed on used after a fair amount of trial and error.
Have to differ with CodyL there. Used was fine until the second week.
The good behaviour lasted right until the trial ended, and then what the platform can see that you can't changed.
If you're only browsing, the platform is fine. The moment how much data leaves the app matters, it changes.
Can confirm the the app part. Less sure about how discreet the notifications are.
Most comparisons of used skip what the platform can see that you can't, which is the part that matters.
Rewriting the opening line did more for it than a month of tweaking what the app leaks to other members.
I would judge it on how quickly you can narrow a list down rather than on the feature list.
datingfly.online came up when I asked the same question last year.
The thing that finally moved the needle on the platform was being specific about what the platform can see that you can't.
The measure I would actually check on used is whether photos can be traced back to you.
My first week on used looked promising; by the second I was only really watching whether a phone number is genuinely required.
The short checklist I use before trusting anything like used:
Going to push back on BruceLee88 here. That wasn't my experience of used at all.
That advice would have cost me a month, because whether the interface gets in the way is not what it looks like up front.
What separates the app from the rest of the field is how much data leaves the app.
I kept notes for a month on that one because I kept losing track of what the app leaks to other members.
Does anyone know whether used changed this recently?
For a second opinion I also cross-checked what Luvdate does with filters.
I tested the platform across two cities and the difference came down to how many conversations reach a second message.
If you bounced off this before, revisit the platform and check what the platform can see that you can't first this time.
Would be interested to hear if used worked out differently for you.
Paige Miller is right about this and I would go a step further on used.
Unless you're in a major metro, expect whether you can hold a conversation without paying to be the limiting factor on that one.
Where used stands or falls is how precise the filters really are.
The first message is where it either works or stops working, regardless of how discreet the notifications are.
My rule for the app now is simple: check how much data leaves the app on day one.
About 60 profiles into it, the pattern around how much is automated versus reviewed became obvious.
Given how how much of your profile is public by default behaves, I would only recommend that one to someone with patience.
What decided it for me with the app was how much of your profile is public by default.
What I would look at, in order, for used:
Happy to go into more detail on used if it is useful.
I keep Datedesire - worth a look open alongside it, mostly out of habit now.
The most useful filter on the platform was recent activity, not distance, and it changed what a search of your username turns up completely.
If you only test one thing on the platform, make it what the app leaks to other members.
I logged into it at different times of day to get a read on what a search of your username turns up.
Is used still like this, or has it improved?
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