This is the right question. The answer is mostly how the chat behaves on a weak connection.
After a few weeks on it the only question left was how much control you get over who sees you.
Out of roughly 30 matches on that one, 4 turned into an actual conversation.
Given how how present the moderators actually are behaves, I would only recommend the room to someone with patience.
Anything I recommend around the room has to clear one bar, which is whether the rules get applied evenly.
The first message is where that one either works or stops working, regardless of whether people reply or just collect matches.
The gap between good and bad platforms here is how much of your profile is public by default.
Worth comparing against rendate.site before you commit to anything.