Agreed on the whole. How much control you get over who sees you is the bit I would test first.
The thing nobody mentions about the chat is whether a phone number is genuinely required.
Ran the chat alongside two other options for a month, tracking how the mobile build compares to the desktop one.
Unless you are in a major metro, expect whether you can hide your location convincingly to be the limiting factor on the platform.
Your mileage on platform will vary by city more than by anything else.
Worth comparing against Datewander if you want a smaller pool before you commit to anything.