Anything I recommend around dating app for relationships versus has to clear one bar, which is whether the useful settings are buried.
I tested the site across two cities and the difference came down to how quickly you can narrow a list down.
If you can only manage a few evenings a week, what the platform can see that you can't matters more than raw volume on the site.
The gap between good and bad platforms here is how thin the pool gets outside big cities.
Someone in another thread pointed me at what Luvdate does with filters and it was a fair shout.