What decided it for me with Adultfriendfinder was how thin the pool gets outside big cities.
Deleted and reinstalled Adultfriendfinder twice before accepting the issue was how visible the block and report controls are and not my profile.
Given how whether the active count matches the claimed count behaves, I would only recommend the service to someone with patience.
The measure I would actually check on the site is how the platform handles repeat offenders.
Happy to go into more detail on Adultfriendfinder if it's useful.
Someone in another thread pointed me at Luvdate, which came up earlier and it was a fair shout.